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Thursday, August 5, 2010
Guest Post- Family & Vendors
This post comes from one of my very best friends. Carroll Anne and I have been friends since we were clad in braces with frizzy hair (trust me we have come along way). She got married right before I did in 2009 and thankfully provided me with so much advice, inspiration, and sanity in the months and weeks before my wedding. Carroll Anne offered the following advice about using family members as vendors.
If you're lucky enough to have a family member in the wedding planning business or even one who has always dreamed of being in the business, my bridal advice to you would be to...LET THEM HELP!
Planning a wedding is an enormous task, and having someone whom you know and trust guide the way during any aspect of your planning is a huge asset! In getting ready for my March, 2009 wedding, I was fortunate that my uncle is a florist. He's worked for a bunch of different companies and currently works for 1-800 FLOWERS. He is a natural at designing arrangements and has done so for practically his whole career. While using him to design my centerpieces and bouquets was a no-brainer, I did have some questions and/or hesitations when it came down to meeting with him "formally" for the first time.
1.) Will he understand what I want?
2.) Will his style clash with mine?
3.) How much do I pay him?
4.) What if I don't end up liking his work?
While these questions brought me a bit of anxiety, the first meeting with him went well and I was feeling relatively calm until the day he brought over a sample of the initial arrangements for the centerpieces. Unfortunately..I HATED THEM! The vision I had in my head was NOT displayed in the sample he presented to me. I felt awful, but I had to tell him I wasn't happy. He was initially a bit hurt (as I imagined he might be), but I simply told him that "this was not what I was picturing." He ended up re-vamping the design and worked tirelessly for two full days before my wedding re-constructing the twenty centerpieces that I needed for the dinner tables (don't think my neighborhood florist would have taken that time or effort to make sure everything turned out the way I wanted it to).
On my wedding day, the centerpieces turned out looking gorgeous! The bouquets were equally as beautiful--my uncle was proud, and I was a thrilled bride! To this day, my uncle and I are closer than we've ever been because of our "business arrangement" regarding my wedding flowers. And of course...my flowers were a fraction of the cost, had my uncle not taken care of them.
Word to the wise: Definitely let the family help out if they are willing to do so! In the end, you'll be happy you did. Good luck!
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Meeting the perfect man? Check! Fall in love? Check! Perfect Ring & Proposal ? Check! Champagne Toast and celebrations? Check!Budget. Guest list, ideal venue….eeek! Checking has just gotten a little more difficult. That’s where we come in! Sure, you are likely to be on cloud 9 for the majority of the time until the big day, but unfortunately reality comes and goes throughout the whole process and brides begin to learn that pretty quickly. That reality doesn’t have to be so anxiety provoking. We are here to make it more fun. Our love for all things weddings really grew out of our own experiences planning. Two friends who came together while planning weddings at the same time; that includes research, breakdowns, tears, brainstorming, decision making and laughs.
We are hoping that we become part of your daily morning routine. Look here for inspirations, tips, and ideas. . We will cover everything from color palettes to design ideas to budgeting, negotiating prices, choosing a dress, picking bridesmaids, narrowing your guest list, finding the best vendors in your area, venue shopping, dealing with in-laws, registry basics, etiquette and just staying SANE. The process is something you will remember forever, we are here to help let it be fun. Feel free to email us topics that you want to discuss, questions that you might have or your own wedding inspirations that we can share. We are always looking for ideas for our readers.
About Francesca: I spent 14 months planning one of the best days of my life and was married in August 2009 to my high school sweetheart (Insert eye roll here). Through that time, I learned much of which we hope to share with you on this blog. I have a love for fashion, family, friends, music,dancing, and of course my husband; All of which were incorporated in the planning of our big day. My 9-5 involves me being a therapist, allowing me to fully understand the emotions that run parallel to this process. Currently enjoying the wonders of being a newlywed and Home & interior design blogs are my new obsession as we are settling into our first house, yet never can fully break away from the wonders of weddings.
About Sherin: I got hitched in late October 2009. It took about a year of planning while in school full time (headache central). I'm a New Yorker that married a true Texan cowboy and tried my best to integrate both of our styles and family traditions into one BIG event. Our wedding was hands down the most amazing day of our lives and I hope that I can share some tips I learned along the way and perhaps give you just a bit of advice on how to stay sane. I'm in love with small details, perfect colors, flowers, traditions, and of course my husband. Currently, I am in school full time getting my doctorate in psychology and my husband is a pediatric resident. We live a pretty hectic life (we wouldn't have it any other way) in NY with our adorable puppy. We couldn't have asked for more.